Sunday, March 11, 2012

5. Default Busy ?

Busy ! a red light? a whistling kettle all the time? this bee is always busy...
Dont you rest a while?

well... work.. 'working' makes me so relieved sometimes. working is the joy. where as relaxing is a pain. Have you felt this at least once?

I was grounded by this thought once again. why do some people get purposely busy? It could be me, it could be you, No matter who.. Why? Why do we want to be busy? once this crawled in to my head , sometimes looking at my own life , Am I that busy one? one who purposefully work hard and continues to be busy even before sleep, reading a book.

Is it because we are afraid to relax? and hate to be emotionally down? is it that we can't face the bitter realities?

Yes, I have felt this many times, where relaxing is a challenge , a nightmare.  Feeling very uneasy when , jobless. Feeling bit comfortable when your mind is engaged in work.

But can we escape the whatever bitter realities? The truths we can't easily think and bear? Can we have such an easy excape? Can we continue this escape ? Is it practical?

Tell me why , are we afraid to relax? relaxed mind can memorize the reality better than a busy one. The emotions ate active even when you are relaxed.. You can be that emotional and feel the pain better when relaxed. And we dont like the 'pain' segment. segment of loneliness and segment of reality to face .

We learn to relax after work , at a computer, on facebook or  a computer game. we think its a relaxation, but are we in to relaxing ? are we easing the effort of the wholeday , or are we bunching up more and more stress by working out ? More work , less pain.

Can we give a little try to face it ? May be you feel better by relaxing when you are strong. You can see the better part, positive part of an unseen unaware incident which you neglected before.

Relaxing is a challenge , especially once you are addicted to work. Relaxing is a scary feeling , when you assume relaxing can make you emotional.

Dare to Relax ! Being Busy is not a Medicine nor a Pain Killer.


  1. Spot on Dil, absolutely spot on, agreed 100 %,

    Let me add my two bits to your in-depth analysis of relaxing or more to the point why are we afraid of relaxing,

    We are afraid of relaxing when we are in the midst of an unbearable upheaval of emotions, say from the sudden loss of a near & dear person who was very close to our life and our heart too, it can either be a death or a parting of the ways, it doesn't matter , to us both scenarios are the same,

    Well, if trying to relax means automatically flooding our mind with all those unwanted & painful feelings , who wants to relax? Do you want? ...I don't think so and tell you what..... definitely not me, I would rather be busy doing something on 24/7 basis than be relaxed and be pained.

    So work is actually an escape valve to release all our pent up feelings...even a sort of catharsis to get rid of painful memories .

    And furthermore even when we don't have any painful memories to forget some of us think that relaxing is a crime....We have to be busy always like that proverbial " Hanuman " with his tail on fire , who set ablaze the whole of " Lankapura ''...You know that story now...don't you?

    Your advice is great Dil , just try to relax, dare to relax in your own words.....that's a nice line , has a certain magical ring to it, dare to relax... .....heh, heh,

    Relaxing is not a crime after all, its an essential and integral part of a healthy mind and a healthy body......

    Let your body be relaxed totally and let your mind wander aimlessly , floating as a feather would be on a wisp of wind.......there's a pithy Sinhala word for that sort of total relaxation..... "අලස සුවය "..... have you heard that?

    That's one of my favourite relaxation methods, try it some would be addicted......අත්දුටුවයි, සත්තයි හරි නොගියොත් මුදල් ආපසු...හෙහ්, හෙහ්,

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