Thursday, November 8, 2012

12. Tree of Love - NOT a Rose of Love !

This is a very well known Email forward , for years ... But surprisingly , this makes me so sensitive and touched , whenever I read it. Just like Forrest Gump, No matter how many times I have watched. It touches me again and again when I watch.
Please read this. Hats off to the original writer !!!!! 

                             MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥
 My Note on the story ....
Love is not a bunch of Roses ! Love will not drain  like a flower withers... 
 Love is a TREE .  Love will grow bigger and stronger as time turns a little plant in to a Giant Shade.  Love doesn't bloom in a night, love struggles to win for years, as a tree fights for its soil of nutrients , and space on earth. 

Remember , only The Strongest Trees Remain , where as other kinds , gives up the existence ! 
Strength is not Inborn not a Miracle too.. Strength is gained after rigorous practice, as a Tree Root fights with its soil to settle to its best ! 

A Tree may not look soft tender and fragile like a flower, but strong and durable for its lasting survival. 

                             Life is a Tree, only few grow Giant and Durable. Live it. Love it. 

Love life will not look NEAT ! 
But it can look Healthy and Steady .. 
As a Giant Tree isn't Pretty like a flower, but strong enough to live longer.


  1. Best story for life. thanks

  2. Made my eyes moist.Dil.....but that doesn't say anything significant because most of times they are moist...:) :)

    Love grows like a tree.....yes, madam, that's an absolute truth... Take it from my personal experience...for me it is growing for a long time .... even now, every second every minute, every hour it grows 24/7 basis...heh, heh,

    Wish you too would be able to one day proclaim thus as I have.....:) :)

  3. I haven't read this before. A shocking story. Yes. Many divorces are caused as a result of negligence. Other things come before love and you lose the intimacy of family life. As Dude says both partners have to give it a try, for life to be happy and satisfied.

  4. අපි කාලයක් තිස්සෙ එකම විදියට ජීවිතේ ගෙනයන කොට අපිට ඒක කිසිම රසයක් නැති දෙයක් බවට පත්වෙනවා...මේ ලෝකෙ බොහොම විසාලයි....අපිට මුදල් නැති වුනත් අපිට සුලු වෙනසකින් ජීවිතේ වෙනස් කරගන්නට පුලුවන් වෙනවා..බොහෝ සමාජීය ජීවිත දරුවන් ලැබුන පසු..කසාද බැද කල් ගතවුනු පසු ඒකාකාරි රාමුවකට යට වෙනවා..ඉතිං ඒ රාමුවෙන් පිට තියෙන්නෙ හරි ලස්සන ලෝකයක් කියලා සමහරු පිට තියෙන ජීවිතසොයා ඇදෙනවා..
    ඒක බොහෝවිට පවුල් ජීවිතය දෙදෙරවන්න හේතුවක් වෙන්න පුලුවනි....

    සමහර විට ගෙදර දොර වැඩ කරලා වුනත් අනවශ්‍ය ලෙස ගැහැනු පිරිමි ධර්මයට යොමු වීම ආදියත් පවුල් ජීවිත වලට හිතකර වන්නේ නැ. අපි යම්තාක් දුරට පිට ඇති සතුට සොයා දුවන්න උත්සාහ කරන්නෙ නැතුව ඇතුලෙ තියෙන දේවල් ලස්සන කරගන්න උත්සාහ කරන්න ඕනි කියලා මට හිතෙනවා...

    බට් මාත් කසාද බැදලා අවුරුදු ගානක් ගියාම මටත් මේ බයිලා මතක නැතිවෙලා යාවි...

  5. Not a true story but a good story

  6. This is my first comment to this blog. It's a hart touching story. Many of us face this situation. After the marriage we take care of each other & after the years pass by we neglect each other due to various reasons. This gives a good advise to all. What ever ups and down you should care each other. We should have little time to talk & make a joke or even to touch each other. Then you feel that you are loved by your partner.
    // Love is a TREE . Love will grow bigger and stronger as time turns a little plant in to a Giant Shade. Love doesn't bloom in a night, love struggles to win for years, as a tree fights for its soil of nutrients , and space on earth. // very true Dil.

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